Well lately I have been keeping it as a vent but I want to go back to a subject I touched on earlier, in one of my earlier post...Mind layers.....
I had to think about this and how I wanted to describe this or how I would make this concept visual in a sense.....ok so a while back me and Ivone talked about core beliefs and we ended drawing a visual aid that would help us understand how our mind or core beliefs function within our mind so that they influence all our decisions and thoughts.....I believe that this would be the best way to describe the concept of mind layers....
We drew this image on a piece of paper so I haven't actually got the original, but I quickly threw one together using paint.....
Ok so here I have used the example of the core belief "That I am not good enough"......just so you know that yes this was something that I once believed many many years ago but have unconsciously changed this around....even though when I did that I had no idea about core beliefs....only discovered that they existed about two years ago....he he he....
Anyway I am just using this as an example because it is the easiest to explain....Ok so as you can see we have layers of conscious thought and unconscious thought that run almost together and all happen within split seconds, but can take much longer to sink in.....
So I will start with the core and then go from there....ok so the core belief I am not good enough comes from something that is learned through an experience or continuous treatment towards yourself....they can start to develop from the moment you start to consciously remember or think....or they can like I said come about later in life due to a major incident, something that hurts deep down and effects you psyche.....These core beliefs are what drives our thought patterns and makes us believe and behave in certain ways.... they are what controls what our personalities become if you let them....now just for clarification not all core beliefs are bad...most definitely not,.....anyway...so like I was saying they drive us to do what we do in life......
So I am going to talk about two different situations and explain how this core belief will work with each of them....
First I will start of by talking about how this core belief will make you believe that something good didn't just happen to you because you deserved it through hard work or perseverance....but will make you believe that it was a fluke or maybe you just got lucky for a change......
Ok so say you get a promotion at work.....first you feel happy and excited you are amazed and shocked that something this good could happen to you....this is the outer layer...your emotions.... Then you think about what's just happened, your automated thought response is ...there must be some mistake, or are they sure they have picked the right person or oh I don't think I will be able to do this....these are just a few that will support your belief but not consciously..... So you start you job in your new position and you accidentally stuff up some files or make a mistake with something.....you start to think "see they did have the wrong person", or I knew they made a mistake what were they thinking putting me in this position.....I knew I wasn't good enough....this is the third layer, the layer that confirms your belief in your mind so that unconsciously you believe and continue to believe that you are not good enough......
Instead of thinking that mistakes happen you are only learning and next time you will get it right, or that it's just one of those days oh well next time I know I can do it......you continue to believe that they have the wrong person for the job or that there was some mistake...
Next example is something bad happens , like you break up with your boyfriend....your emotions are hurt, angry sad and lonely.....your automated thought responses are why would he do this, what did I do, what have I done wrong......then you start thinking I knew I wasn't good enough for him, I knew I shouldn't done or said that and then it's the whole thing of blaming yourself..... So you have already reached layer 3 by this point and this all confirms the belief that you weren't good enough.....
Instead you should be thinking what happened in general.....and yes if you have or did do something wrong think, acknowledge this but recognise that you are only human and can make mistakes....also realise that maybe he wasn't good enough for you and he just couldn't handle it....lol....also, accept what happened, as these things do happen in life and move on but remember that and if you did do something wrong ...to try not to do it again.....
Now I understand that this little example is really summarised, and that the whole process of breaking up with some-one is something that can scar you for life but it depends on what your core beliefs are that will effect how or how much.....so don't think I am being insensitive here...it's just I talking about something else here right now....lol....
ok so as you can see this core belief will work any situation to confirm itself....whether good or bad.....this in effect can be your biggest downfall in life.....and this is only one core belief that is actually quite common in people....anyway so in saying all this ...not every-one can grasp the idea of core beliefs or even comprehend that they exist.....Some can but will not or cannot figure whats theirs are...and personally I only know a few of mine...luckily the ones I do know about I am conscious of and can change my thought pattern before it confirms the belief thereby eventually changing the belief itself.....this process can take years or happen in a heart beat...it just depends on you.....and what the belief was. To be able to do this is not easy and can be tiring so if you are of sound mind then this whole concept is best experimented then, not when you are in doubt about yourself your your strength.....because sadly reality hurts as does the truth, so if your are prepared to be absolutely honest with yourself then try exploring this whole concept within yourself....you will be surprised at what you find.......
Good luck.....
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